spot a bro WHO’S feeling low

It can often be tricky spotting a friend who’s struggling. This page will provide you with some useful approaches and suggestions.


Helping a friend is easy when you know how. Follow these four steps to let the conversation flow.

1 Ask

Start by mentioning anything different you’ve noticed. Maybe he’s spending more time at the bar, coming into work late, or missing social events.

“You’ve not quite seemed yourself recently. Are you okay?”

Trust your instinct. Remember, we often say “I’m fine” when we’re not. So if you think something’s wrong, don’t be afraid to ask twice.

2 Listen

Try to give him your full attention, without interruptions. Don’t feel you have to diagnose problems, offer solutions or give advice. Just let him know you’re all ears, judgement-free.

Follow-up questions are good too. They’ll help let him know you’re listening:

“That can’t be easy. How long have you felt that way?”​

3 encourage

Help him focus on simple things that might improve how he feels. Is he getting enough sleep? Is he exercising and eating well? Maybe there’s something that’s helped him in the past – it’s worth asking.

Suggest that he share how he’s feeling with others he trusts. This will make things easier for both of you. And if he’s felt low for more than two weeks, suggest that he chat to his doctor.

4 Check-In

Suggest you catch up soon – in person if you can. If you can’t manage a meet-up, make time for a call, or drop him a message. This helps to show that you care; plus, you’ll get a feel for whether he’s feeling any better.



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Further help & contacts

Crisis Services Canada

Crisis Services Canada is a national network of existing distress, crisis and suicide prevention line services.

Bereaved Families of Ontario

Provides mutual aid support for families and individuals who are grieving, including survivors of suicide. Includes link to local chapters.

Heads Up Guys

A men’s depression resource originally funded by Movember that provides guys with information and practical tips to manage and prevent depression. Includes resources for family.

Kids Help Phone

Provides “male specific” content and support for boys/youth to promote emotional health and wellbeing.

Hope for Wellness Helpline

Offers immediate crisis intervention to all Indigenous peoples across Canada, 24/7.

Trans Lifeline

Trans Lifeline is a national trans-led 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to improving the quality of trans lives through direct service, material support, advocacy, and education.