COVID-19 UPDATE
STAYING CONNECTED
In the world of COVID-19, daily life as we’ve known it has been flipped on its head. But there are some steps we can take every day to look after ourselves and others. Our focus is to provide reliable information to guide and support us all through these turbulent times.
“What’s happening now is impacting us all in different ways. Sometimes it’s hard to know what to do, where to start or what to say. As we push through this together, we hope we can empower people to connect with others who are struggling and find the help they need now.”
1 Ask
Start by asking how he’s feeling. It’s worth mentioning any changes you’ve picked up on: has he stopped replying to texts? Does he sound different on the phone? Has he gone quiet in the group chat?Use a prompt like, "You haven’t seemed yourself lately – are you feeling OK?”
Trust your instinct. Remember, people often say "I'm fine" when they’re not, so don't be afraid to ask twice.
You can use something specific you’ve noticed, like, “It’s just that you haven’t been replying to my texts, and that’s not like you.”
2 Listen
Give him your full attention. Let him know you’re hearing what he’s saying and you’re not judging. You don’t have to diagnose problems or offer solutions, but asking questions lets him know you’re listening.Ask a question like, "That can't be easy – how long have you felt this way?"
3 encourage
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Help him focus on simple things that might improve how he feels. Is he getting enough sleep? Is he exercising and eating well? Maybe there’s something that’s helped him in the past – it’s worth asking.
Suggest that he share how he’s feeling with others he trusts. This will make things easier for both of you. And if he’s felt low for more than two weeks, suggest that he chat to his doctor.
4 Check In
Follow up your conversation with a phone call or FaceTime. This helps to show that you care; plus, you’ll get a feel for whether he’s feeling any better.Huge thanks to R U OK? for developing the ALEC model.
GET SUPPORT
To speak with someone immediately, contact your local crisis support line on 1-833-456-4566.
If you're ever worried that someone's life is in immediate danger, call 911 or go directly to emergency services.
