When I first decided to participate in Movember at the age of 19, I never imagined I’d still be taking part 15 years later. Back then, being the son of a man surviving terminal cancer defined much of my identity. When my dad passed away eight years ago, I heard hundreds of people say, "Be strong for your family" or "You're the man of the house now."
I took on society’s narrow view of what it meant to be a "strong" man. I “manned up,” hardened myself like a rock, avoided vulnerability, and did everything in my power to not be seen as weak. I disassociated from all emotions, didn’t allow myself to grieve, and over time, that emotional suppression showed up as physical health issues. I lost my sense of self and put everyone else’s needs before my own.
For the past two years, I’ve been focused on healing—physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and socially. Not from the trauma of losing my father, but from the toll of trying to live up to the traditional ideals of masculinity. While I no longer claim this story as my identity, I'm grateful for all the chapters of my life and am elated to share that I’m starting to see and feel the impact of my journey toward self-discovery.
I invite you to share if my message resonates with you, ask questions about my journey, or reach out if you are looking for a safe space to remove the mask of masculinity.
Let’s start a conversation that helps create a world where tears are seen as strength, not weakness.
Let’s redefine what it means to be strong—together.