It’s 2017 and a man still can’t mourn the loss of his friend without facing online hate.

Auteur : Movember
Why is the sight of a “grown man crying” an invitation for mockery, or even hateful
abuse, in the press and social media? It’s 2017, and that’s been the reaction Justin Trudeau has received from some quarters for tearing up when speaking about the death of his friend and Canadian cultural icon, Gord Downie. It’s not even like he was sobbing so hard he couldn’t get his words out – it didn’t slow him down or spoil anyone’s day - he just showed he was pretty cut up about losing someone he knew, and who meant something in his life.
 
It can be confusing where to draw the line on emotion as a man: there’s plenty of advice out there to be compassionate, empathetic, to listen and care more and then we, the public, go ahead and berate a man when he cries about the death of someone he cares about, in a public forum. I’m sorry, did I miss the bit where you said “I want men to be a bit more sensitive, but only behind closed doors where I don’t have to see it”?
 
The state of men’s health is not good. In fact, across most of the Western World men are dying too young and many aren’t living happy and healthy lives. The number one way for a Canadian man aged 19-44 to die, is suicide …  not a car accident, not cancer, not heart failure, but suicide. We know that stoicism and self-reliance do not serve men well as traditionally sought stereotypes of being a man. 
 
So can we stop telling men what they are doing wrong, even when they get it right? It isn’t that Justin Trudeau’s tears are a sign of being a new age man, or being more sensitive, or redefining anything, it’s just that Justin Trudeau choking up when talking about the loss of a loved one is surely a natural response for an empathetic and caring human, regardless of gender, race or anything else.
 
If you’re sad about something, feel free to show emotion. If you aren’t doing so great, talk to someone. And if you’re worried about someone you care about, ask them how they are doing and take the time to listen; it can make the world of difference in someone’s life.
 
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